Or more accurately, don’t be an over-committer. I have been challenged recently with the idea that I might not be someone who is the best at following through. Now nobody has said anything to me; I have just been noticing a trend in my life that points to the unsightly fact that I have trouble following through. Then I took a serious look at my circumstances and realized it’s not that I don’t follow through, it’s that I over-commit.
Ideas are flying into my head at warp speed most days and I want to do them all. That’s not the problem. The dilemma begins when I open my big mouth and start telling people that I’m going to be doing such and such. Then I have placed myself in a situation where I need to follow-thru. Now one of two things happens at this point. 1. I do follow-thru on everything and manage to thoroughly exhaust myself in the process or 2. I don’t follow-thru, look like a flake and disappoint people. Neither scenarios are optimal. Now I’m fairly certain I’m not the only person who does this, but I am interested in a solution.
As I’ve been taking a hard look at this, I’ve decided on this plan of action. The ideas are still going to come at warp speed. I’m going to write them down and not do anything about them. Once a month I will review my list and decide if there are any that can be acted on within the scope of all my other commitments. I don’t want to stop the idea process, I just want to be able to have a vehicle to collect them so I don’t push them all through to the execution phase. I think this will help.
Not adding anything new will keep me focused on my current commitments and keep me plugging away at them.
Over the past couple of days, I read a couple of blog posts that really challenged and encouraged me and I wanted to share them with you.
Katy from the Non-Consumer Advocate wrote about Frugality vs. Simple Living. A line in her post that jumped off the screen at me was, “I believe frugality and simple living all boil down to choosing a deliberate life.” I love the idea of choosing and living a deliberate life. In some ways I think that’s what I’m trying to achieve with all my projects, I’m just fumbling a bit as I start. I’m not trying to make excuses, but I’ve been made aware of how much of life just passes me by because I’m not paying attention and I don’t want to do that anymore. Change is always messy at first and I think what I’ve been experiencing is change. Read Katy’s post. It’s really good.
The other post that challenged me was from Trent at the Simple Dollar. He wrote about turning external motivation into internal motivation. Boy that struck a chord. The sentence that leapt off the screen: “I have never been authentically successful when external forces have pushed me. Every bit of lasting success in my life has come from internal motivation.” He does a really good job of asking authentic questions and describing the path he took. Another post that would be worth your time.
How do you deal with the challenge of over-commitment or lack of follow-thru?
“Momma, we don’t have a clue what you’re talking about. Just don’t stop taking us for walks.”